When you just don’t feel like yourself anymore
Sex therapy for Menopause and beyond in Austin, Texas.
Yes, you can have better sex in midlife and beyond
When you just don’t
feel like yourself
anymore
midlife and beyond
Menopause doesn’t
just change your hormones.
- I love my partner, but my body doesn’t respond anymore.”
- “Is this only going to get worse?”
- “I want to feel like myself again… but I don’t even know where to begin.”
What you’re experiencing is real, but it doesn’t mean intimacy is over. Feeling stuck isn’t a sign that something is broken, it’s your body asking for something different.
Your desire isn’t gone
It may feel quiet, buried under discomfort, emotional fatigue, or years of putting everyone else first. But it’s still there, waiting for the right support to come back to life.
And here’s what might surprise you:
Research shows that many women experience their most satisfying sex in their 50s, 60s, or even 70s. Pleasure can feel more real, honest, and deeply connected than ever.
The best may be just beginning.
Your Sex Life Isn’t Over. It’s Just Changing.
Your desire isn’t gone
The best may be just beginning.
Your Sex Life Isn’t Over. It’s Just Changing.
Maybe you didn’t even realize you were going through menopause until something felt... off.
Here’s what often shows up for postmenopausal women:
- Vaginal discomfort, tightness, or muscle tension that makes sexual activity painful.
- A longer path to arousal, or it doesn’t show up at all.
- Orgasms feel distant, unpredictable, or impossible.
- You still crave connection but feel lost in how to get there.
- Your partner notices the change, and now the guilt creeps in.
- You still crave connection but feel lost in how to get there.
These are all ways menopause can affect your sex drive, and you’re not alone. Sexual challenges are more common than we talk about. But they’re not inevitable, and sex isn’t over.
"I want to want sex again. I just don’t know how to get there."
- Is this just part of aging?
- Is it my relationship?
- Is something wrong with me or how I see my body?
No one teaches us how to talk about these changes, but after 20 years of guiding women through this, I can tell you that it’s possible to feel desire again. On your terms, in your body, and in your own time.
No more avoiding or going through the motions, let’s change that now.
"I want to want sex again. I just don’t know how to get there."
That’s one of the most common things I hear in my sex therapy practice.
Women who long for connection—but feel caught between discomfort, hesitation, and the pressure to “get back to normal.”
They carry these questions:
- Is this just part of aging?
- Is it my relationship?
- Is something wrong with me or how I see my body?
No one teaches us how to talk about these changes, but after 20 years of guiding women through this, I can tell you that it’s possible to feel desire again. On your terms, in your body, and in your own time.
No more avoiding or going through the motions, let’s change that now.
How Menopause Affects your Sex life
Menopause → ↓ Estrogen levels →
Less vaginal lubrication, less sensitivity
↓
Arousal takes longer → Pleasure feels harder
to access
↓
Discomfort → Avoidance → Desire
fades → Emotional and physical distance
Sex After Menopause Isn’t About “Fixing” Yourself. It’s About Reconnecting.
In therapy, we don’t force anything.
We don’t rush you.
We create space to get curious again, without shame, without judgment, and without assuming that sex always means sexual intercourse.
How Menopause Affects your Sex life
Menopause → ↓ Estrogen levels →
Less vaginal lubrication, less sensitivity
↓
Arousal takes longer → Pleasure feels harder
to access
↓
Discomfort → Avoidance → Desire
fades → Emotional and physical distance
Sex After Menopause Isn’t About “Fixing” Yourself. It’s About Reconnecting.
In therapy, we don’t force anything.
We don’t rush you.
We create space to get curious again, without shame, without judgment, and without assuming that sex always means sexual intercourse.
Here’s what could be possible:
- Looking forward to intimacy, not dreading it
- Feeling emotionally and physically close to your partner
- Having a sex life that is so fulfilling that you can’t wait to experience it again.
Here’s what could be possible:
- Looking forward to intimacy, not dreading it
- Feeling emotionally and physically close to your partner
- Having a sex life that is so fulfilling that you can’t wait to experience it again.
Things We Can Work On Together in Sex Therapy
Working with me as your sex therapist will look like creating a space to explore and understand your unique experience, because there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to desire. We’ll explore why your sexual response may have changed, including the role of shifting hormone levels, physical changes, and symptoms of menopause.
We’ll also look at how past sexual experiences, shame, or unresolved grief may be shaping how you feel today. And we’ll talk about the important difference between physical readiness and emotional readiness for sex, because both matter.
You Don’t Need to “Go Back” to
Who You Were.
You become who you are now, with full permission to feel good again.
This is about reconnecting with your sexual interest, your body, and your well-being in this chapter of your life.
The best may be just beginning.
Ready to have an amazing
sex life in midlife and beyond?
Whether you’re already post-menopause or just navigating the changes, I can help. You don’t have to figure it out alone, and you don’t have to “fix” yourself.
As a certified sex therapist, I help women gently reconnect with themselves and rediscover intimacy, without shame, pressure, or unrealistic expectations.
You deserve a sex life that meets you where you are.
I’m here to guide you through reconnecting with your body, your desires, and your partner. Let’s work together to rebuild the intimacy you deserve.
In the beginning, sex was effortless, fun, spontaneous, easy. But after a few years, my desire disappeared, and I had no idea why. I started having sex just to please my partner, but it felt like a chore. I wasn’t enjoying it, and he could tell. No matter how many toys, outfits, or tricks I tried, nothing worked. I felt like I was failing.
I reached a point where I thought, “I’m okay with never having sex again.” But deep down, I missed the connection, the excitement, the part of me that used to feel alive.
Coming from a conservative background, I had very little understanding of how to reconnect with my desire. So I went searching. I studied sexuality through AASECT, explored Tantra, and attended hundreds of workshops. And slowly, things shifted. I went from “not tonight” to genuinely wanting—and loving—sex again.
Now I know: desire isn’t something you’re born with or without.
It’s something you can nurture, grow, and reclaim. I spent 20 years studying what it really takes to reignite desire and now, I want to share everything I’ve learned with you.
I went from “I’m okay never having sex again” to genuinely craving intimacy and now I help others do the same.
My goal as a sex therapist?
to help you feel connected and alive again.
You can experience playfulness, pleasure, and real sexual satisfaction, without fear holding you back
What sex therapy can help you with
FAQs – Menopause
Is it normal for my sex drive to change during or after menopause?
Yes, completely. Shifting hormones can affect desire, arousal, and even how your body responds to touch. But that doesn’t mean your sex life is over. In therapy, we explore what’s changed and how to reconnect with pleasure in a way that feels natural for you.
Why does sex hurt now and what can I do about it?
Painful sex is one of the most common (and least talked about) symptoms of menopause. It can be caused by vaginal dryness, tension, or emotional disconnection. Together, we’ll look at both physical and emotional factors and find ways to make intimacy feel safe, comfortable, and enjoyable again.
What if I love my partner but just don’t feel desire anymore?
This is something I hear often. Desire can get quiet during menopause not because it’s gone, but because it’s buried under discomfort, exhaustion, or years of putting yourself last. In therapy, we create space to listen to your body, rediscover what feels good, and rebuild intimacy on your terms.
I don’t feel like “me” anymore. Can therapy help with that?
Absolutely. The changes of menopause can affect your relationship with your body, your identity, and your sense of self-worth. This work isn’t about “fixing” you, it’s about helping you feel at home in your body again and making space for your pleasure and aliveness.
What if my partner doesn’t understand what I’m going through?
That’s common and something we can address together. Whether you come to therapy alone or as a couple, we’ll work on communication tools that help you share what you’re experiencing in a way that builds connection and empathy, not frustration or guilt.
Can I do this even if sex has been off the table for a while?
Yes. Many women come to therapy after months, or even years, without sexual intimacy. There’s no “too late.” We begin exactly where you are, without shame or pressure.
What if I’m not even sure what I want anymore?
That’s a perfectly valid place to start. This phase of life can bring up a lot of questions and very few clear answers. Therapy offers a space to get curious, listen inward, and gently explore what desire looks like now, for you.
