Vaginismus Treatment and Overcoming Dyspareunia
Therapy to treat pain during sex in person in Austin. Online in Dallas, San Antonio, Houston, and Across Texas
Feel more pleasure and less pain
Does the thought of having sex with your partner worry you?
Do you experience involuntary muscle tightening around your vagina before or during sex?
Is it often painful for you to insert a tampon or have a check-up with your gynecologist?
If any of these scenarios sound familiar, you might be dealing with vaginismus or dyspareunia. While these conditions are more common than you might think, they can greatly impact your quality of life, often bringing feelings of shame, embarrassment, and a sense of disconnect from intimacy.
You’re not alone in this, and there are effective treatments available that can help you relieve pain during sex. With the right support and guidance, you can overcome these challenges and reclaim your sexual pleasure and satisfaction.
The struggle of Living with Vaginismus and Dyspareunia
It’s important to recognize that these sexual health conditions aren’t just about physical symptoms—past sexual trauma, anxiety, or fear around sex can all contribute to vaginismus and dyspareunia. Because these factors are often linked, addressing both the physical and emotional aspects of pain during sex is crucial for healing.
These conditions don’t just affect your time in the bedroom—they can impact your entire relationship and sense of intimacy.
Vaginismus and dyspareunia can make sex painful, leading to avoidance, distance, and withdrawal from intimacy altogether. If left untreated, these conditions can have lasting effects on your sexual health and overall well-being. But with the right approach, relief is possible, and you can improve your quality of life.
You don’t have to suffer anymore
Helping You Feel Comfort and Pleasure, Holistically
As an experienced sex therapist specializing in women’s sexual health, I understand how overwhelming and debilitating conditions like vaginismus and dyspareunia can be. The pain doesn’t just affect your physical health—it can impact other areas of your life too.
What’s needed is a holistic approach that addresses both the physical and emotional components.
That’s why I use a variety of evidence-based treatments and techniques to help women find relief and reclaim their intimacy. In a caring, compassionate environment where you’ll feel safe and understood, we’ll work together to create a personalized dyspareunia and vaginismus treatment that’s just right for you.
Remember—sex doesn’t have to hurt. There are solutions that can help you experience comfort and pleasure.
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My Treatment Methods:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
CBT helps you identify and challenge negative thoughts and beliefs about sex that may be contributing to discomfort or anxiety. By understanding and reframing how you perceive and approach intimacy, we can work together to develop a more positive and empowering mindset towards sex.
Sensate Focus Therapy
This technique gradually reintroduces touch and intimacy without any pressure for penetration. Instead, the focus is on exploring physical sensations and building an emotional connection, helping you rebuild trust in your body, reduce anxiety around intimacy, and relieve pain during sex. Sensate Focus has proven to be an effective approach for treating pain during intimacy.
Dilator Therapy
Dilator therapy uses a series of gradually increasing dilators to help relax vaginal muscles and reduce discomfort. You’ll work on this in the privacy and comfort of your home, controlling the pace so you can build trust and comfort with each step. This helps your muscles gradually adjust to sensations, addressing both physical and emotional barriers related to penetration.
I understand that every woman’s experience with vaginismus and dyspareunia is unique. You will receive a personalized approach designed to help you find relief in bed and improve your life.
Hi. I’m Vielka. A Certified Sex Therapist who knows what you’re going through.
At the beginning, everything was great—including sex. It was fun, spontaneous, and there was a lot of it. But after a couple of years, something changed. I didn’t want to have sex anymore. I grew up in Costa Rica, a catholic country and I had no idea how to fix it.
I started doing it just for my partner, but honestly, it felt like I was doing him a favor. Saying “no” didn’t make him happy, and saying “yes” didn’t make me happy. Sex was no longer enjoyable, and our emotional intimacy began to suffer.
I felt terrible as a partner. I lost desire and didn’t know how to bring it back. It didn’t matter how many toys or lingerie I would buy. Nothing worked. I felt like giving up.
Then I learned that losing desire happens to a lot of couples. This made me feel better, but the problem was still there—and I had no idea how to fix it.
I reached a point where I thought, “I’m okay never having sex again.” Yes, it got that bad. Deep down, I craved the connection, excitement, and aliveness that sex brings, but I had no idea how to make that happen.
But I didn’t give up and I embarked on a journey that led me to become a Certified Sex Therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).
I discovered the tools I needed, and my intimacy became absolutely AMAZING! Now I know how to create mind-blowing orgasms and keep desire alive over time. I’m passionate about sharing what I’ve learned and helping others transform their sexuality through self-love and healing.
Ready to Take the First Step Towards Relief?
Book a Session with Me Today
If you’re in need of vaginismus treatment or help in overcoming dyspareunia, don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m here to support you through these challenges and ensure you experience the joy and fulfilment that comes with a healthy and satisfying sex life.
Together, we’ll address both the physical and emotional aspects of these conditions, helping you relieve pain during sex, rekindle your relationship, and rebuild your confidence.
Frequently Asked Questions
Any additional questions? We are here to answer…
Vaginismus is the involuntary tightening of the muscles around the vagina during or before penetration, which can make sex painful or impossible. If you experience discomfort or pain during sex, inserting a tampon, or during gynecological exams, you might be dealing with vaginismus.
Dyspareunia is persistent or recurring pain during intercourse. It can affect your physical comfort and emotional well-being, often leading to avoidance of sex and distancing from your partner, impacting intimacy in your relationship.
Yes, psychological factors like past sexual trauma, anxiety, or fear of intimacy can contribute to vaginismus and dyspareunia. Therapy can help address both the physical and emotional causes of these conditions, allowing you to heal holistically.
Sex therapy provides a safe space to explore the emotional and psychological aspects of pain during sex. Through techniques like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Sensate Focus, we’ll work on reducing anxiety and pain, helping you regain pleasure and intimacy in your relationship.
Yes, having your partner involved can be helpful, especially when it comes to improving communication and reducing the emotional distance that can arise from these challenges. Therapy can provide tools to strengthen your relationship and restore intimacy.
Absolutely. Your privacy is my top priority, and I adhere to strict ethical guidelines to ensure that everything discussed in our sessions stays confidential. The only exceptions to confidentiality are rare and legally mandated, such as:
- Reports of abuse or neglect involving children, elders, or vulnerable adults.
- Court orders requiring the release of records, usually related to a person’s mental health in a legal case.
- Safety concerns, including when a client expresses thoughts of self-harm, suicide, or intent to harm others.
In all other cases, what we discuss stays between us, so you can feel safe opening up during therapy.