Why Don’t I Want Sex with My Husband—If I Still Love Him?
31/03/2025
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You love your husband. You enjoy his company, trust him, and wouldn’t want to be with anyone else. But when it comes to sex? You
Sex therapy for Menopause and beyond in Austin, Texas.
Getting Real About Sex, Intimacy, and Relationships
Most Common Sexual Concerns People Face (But Rarely Talk About)
Menopause doesn’t just change your hormones.
It reshapes your relationship with desire. With pleasure. With your body—and with yourself.
You might catch yourself thinking:
“I love my partner, but my body doesn’t respond anymore.”
“Is this only going to get worse?”
“I want to feel like myself again… but I don’t even know where to begin.”
What you’re experiencing is real, but it doesn’t mean intimacy is over. Feeling stuck isn’t a sign that something is broken—it’s your body asking for something different.
Your desire isn’t gone.
It may feel quiet—buried under discomfort, emotional fatigue, or years of putting everyone else first. But it’s still there, waiting for the right support to come back to life.
And here’s what might surprise you:
Research shows that many women experience their most satisfying sex in their 50s, 60s, or even 70s. Pleasure can feel more real, honest, and deeply connected than ever.
The best may be just beginning.
Your Sex Life Isn’t Over—It’s Just Changing
“I want to want sex again. I just don’t know how to get there.”
That’s one of the most common things I hear in my sex therapy practice.
Women who long for connection—but feel caught between discomfort, hesitation, and the pressure to “get back to normal.”
They carry these questions:
Is this just part of aging?
Is it my relationship?
Is something wrong with me or how I see my body?
No one teaches us how to talk about these changes—but after 20 years of guiding women through this, I can tell you that t’s possible to feel desire again. On your terms, in your body, and in your own time.
No more avoiding or going through the motions — let’s change that now. Schedule your free consultation.
How Menoupuase Affects your Sex life
Menopause → ↓ Estrogen levels → Less vaginal lubrication, less sensitivity
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Arousal takes longer → Pleasure feels harder to access
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Discomfort → Avoidance → Desire fades → Emotional and physical distance
Sex After Menopause Isn’t About “Fixing” Yourself—It’s About Reconnecting
In therapy, we don’t force anything.
We don’t rush you.
We create space to get curious again—without shame, without judgment, and without assuming that sex always means sexual intercourse.
No more avoiding or going through the motions — let’s change that now. Schedule your free consultation.
What We Can Work Together in Sex Therapy
Working with me as your sex therapist will look like creating a space to explore and understand your unique experience—because there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to desire.
We’ll explore why your sexual response may have changed, including the role of shifting hormone levels, physical changes, and symptoms of menopause. We’ll also look at how past sexual experiences, shame, or unresolved grief may be shaping how you feel today. And we’ll talk about the important difference between physical readiness and emotional readiness for sex—because both matter.
You Don’t Need to “Go Back” to Who You Were.
You become who you are now—with full permission to feel good again.
This is about reconnecting with your sexual interest, your body, and your well-being in this chapter of your life.
Here’s what could be possible:
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Looking forward to intimacy—not dreading it
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Feeling emotionally and physically close to your partner
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Having a sex life that is so fulfilling that you can’t wait to experience it again.
No more avoiding or going through the motions — let’s change that now. Schedule your free consultation.
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Or, would you rather start with a free 15-minute phone consult.
A Certified Sex Therapist who knows what you’re going through.
Hi, I am Vielka
This is why I became a certified Sex therapist in Austin, Texas
In the beginning, sex was effortless—fun, spontaneous, easy. But after a few years, my desire disappeared, and I had no idea why. I started having sex just to please my partner, but it felt like a chore. I wasn’t enjoying it, and he could tell. No matter how many toys, outfits, or tricks I tried, nothing worked. I felt like I was failing.
I reached a point where I thought, “I’m okay with never having sex again.”
But deep down, I missed the connection, the excitement, the part of me that used to feel alive.
Coming from a conservative background, I had very little understanding of how to reconnect with my desire. So I went searching. I studied sexuality through AASECT, explored Tantra, and attended hundreds of workshops. And slowly, things shifted. I went from “not tonight” to genuinely wanting—and loving—sex again.
Now I know: desire isn’t something you’re born with or without.
It’s something you can nurture, grow, and reclaim.
I spent 20 years studying what it really takes to reignite desire—and now, I want to share everything I’ve learned with you.
Ready to have an amazing sex life in midlife and beyond?
Whether you’re already post-menopause or just navigating the changes, I can help. You don’t have to figure it out alone, and you don’t have to “fix” yourself.
As a certified sex therapist, I help women gently reconnect with themselves and rediscover intimacy—without shame, pressure, or unrealistic expectations.
You deserve a sex life that meets you where you are.
I’m here to guide you through reconnecting with your body, your desires, and your partner. Let’s work together to rebuild the intimacy you deserve.
[Book your free consultation now] and start embracing a fulfilling sex life today.
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Sex Therapy: How It Can Transform Your Relationship
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