Do you ever feel like you are too much in your head during sex? Whether it’s premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, or trouble reaching orgasm, being stuck in your head can make sex feel stressful or not satisfying rather than a source of pleasure.
“I Just Can’t Get Out of My Head.”
You’re not alone. Many people find themselves distracted, anxious, or focused on performance during sex, which makes it hard to stay present and fully enjoy the experience. Maybe you’re worried about lasting long enough or anxious about whether you’re satisfying your partner. That constant pressure can leave you feeling like you’re falling short.
What You Really Want
You want to relax and enjoy intimacy without worrying about performance. You want to feel confident and in sync with your partner—where sex is fun, exciting, and a way to deepen your connection.
Sex should be fun, not stressful
The Solution:
Sensate Focus threrapy to Reconnect and Be Present
The good news? You don’t have to be perfect in bed. Sensate Focus, a proven therapeutic tool, shifts your attention away from performance and back to sensation and connection. By focusing on touch and physical sensations, you can learn to be present with your partner and enjoy sex overcoming performance anxiety.
Whether you’re dealing with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, or difficulties with orgasm, Sensate Focus can help you rediscover pleasure, overcome anxiety, and build a stronger connection with your partner.
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A Certified Sex Therapist who knows what you’re going through.
Growing up in Costa Rica’s Catholic traditions, I was surrounded by strict societal norms about how young women should behave
When I got older, I pursued a degree in psychology, eager to learn more about sex, but was surprised to find that my courses didn’t really cover human sexuality. The closest thing I had to learning was a monthly Cosmo magazine, which, while fun, didn’t provide the depth I was looking for.
Because of this gap in knowledge, my early relationships—though they started with a lot of passion—soon lost their excitement. I experienced painful sex, a loss of desire, and even reached a point where I thought, “I’m okay never having sex again.” Yes, it got that bad. Deep down, I craved the connection, excitement, and aliveness that sex brings, but I had no idea how to make that happen.
Determined to change my life and experience fulfilling intimacy, I embarked on a journey that led me to become a Certified Sex Therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).
I also immersed myself in ancient practices like Tantra and Taoism, gaining a deep understanding of the connection between emotional and physical intimacy. This journey completely transformed not just my view of relationships but my entire life.
I went from feeling disconnected from my body to experiencing mind-blowing pleasure and orgasms. Now, my mission is clear: to create a movement of loving, kind sexual freedom and empowerment. I’m passionate about guiding others to embrace their sexuality, heal their past, and rediscover the pleasure and connection they deserve.
How Sensate Focus Therapy Can Help You Reclaim Intimacy
Premature Ejaculation
We’ll work on techniques that help you feel more in control of your body and less anxious about timing or outcomes. This can break the cycle of anxiety and frustration, allowing you to last longer and enjoy intimacy.
Erectile Dysfunction
If you’re struggling to maintain an erection, you’re likely overwhelmed by pressure. This approach encourages you to slow down and focus on the sensations of touch, reducing performance anxiety and helping you reconnect with your partner without fear.
Erectile Dysfunction
If you’re struggling to maintain an erection, you’re likely overwhelmed by pressure. This approach encourages you to slow down and focus on the sensations of touch, reducing performance anxiety and helping you reconnect with your partner without fear.
Difficulty Reaching Orgasm
Sometimes, the harder you try to “achieve” orgasm, the more it slips away. We’ll help you let go of mental blocks and focus on pleasure, making it easier to reach climax by focusing on what feels good rather than stressing about the outcome.
Low desire
We can help reignite desire by allowing you to explore touch and intimacy without the pressure of having to “perform” or meet specific expectations. Together, we’ll develop strategies to boost your libido.
Pain During Sex (Dyspareunia)
Chronic pain can disrupt the connection between your body and brain, making even normal sensations feel uncomfortable and creating a cycle of fear and avoidance. Recent studies have shown that treatments like Sensate Focus Therapy can help you reconnect with your body, improving confidence and comfort during sex. This approach helps reduce pain and rebuild trust in your body. You don’t have to live with discomfort—healing is possible.
Overcoming performance anxiety
Sensate Focus Therapy helps reduce performance anxiety by shifting your focus away from expectations and onto the sensations of touch. Instead of worrying about outcomes like maintaining an erection or reaching orgasm, you’ll be guided to stay present and enjoy the physical experience without pressure.
What is Sensate Focus?
Sensate Focus is a series of touch-based exercises designed to help you and your partner reconnect and rediscover intimacy. These exercises shift the focus from performance to the sensations of touch, helping you stay in the moment and reduce anxiety around sex.
Over time, Sensate Focus exercises help couples rebuild trust, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction—without the pressure to perform or achieve specific goals. Whether you’re doing the exercises alone or together, the focus is on exploring sensation and building connection.
Ready to Stop Worrying and Start Enjoying Sex Again?
Book a Session with Me Today
If you’re tired of feeling anxious, frustrated, or disconnected during sex, it’s time to make a change. Sensate Focus therapy can help you shift your focus from performance to connection, allowing you to fully enjoy sex again.
Great lovers are not borned, they are made
Schedule a consultation today and let’s set you down the path of giving and receiving the pleasure you deserve.
Frequently Asked Questions
Any additional questions? We are here to answer...
During Sensate Focus Therapy, you’ll engage in a series of sensual, non-sexual touch exercises designed to help you reconnect with your body and your partner (if you are in a relationship). The exercises gradually progress over time. I will facilitate these exercises by assigning them as homework to try at home.
Sensate Focus Therapy fosters both emotional and physical intimacy. By focusing on connection rather than performance, it helps deepen emotional bonds while improving sexual satisfaction.
Yes, Sensate Focus Therapy is particularly effective for individuals dealing with performance anxiety. By focusing on the sensations of touch rather than the outcome, you can reduce stress and fully enjoy the experience.
Absolutely. Your privacy is my top priority, and I adhere to strict ethical guidelines to ensure that everything discussed in our sessions stays confidential. The only exceptions to confidentiality are rare and legally mandated, such as:
Reports of abuse or neglect involving children, elders, or vulnerable adults.
Court orders requiring the release of records, usually related to a person’s mental health in a legal case.
Safety concerns, including when a client expresses thoughts of self-harm, suicide, or intent to harm others.
In all other cases, what we discuss stays between us, so you can feel safe opening up during therapy.